And, How Do I Feel?

I was talking to a girlfriend and she reminded me to stop thinking about how good he is on paper, how cute he is, et al, and concentrate on "how do I feel when I'm around him?"  Sometimes he is very cute, amazing on paper, and great days are great, but I'm very annoyed and/or enraged the rest of the time.

I already concentrate on feelings with new and old friends.  I have one friend who is always anxious and worried.  Every time I see her, I feel anxious and worried.  We aren't friends anymore.  I know how to do this with friends.  I need to start doing it more with potential guys in the dating/relationship area.  If you have the same problem (liking the idea of someone more than the reality), incorporating feelings would snap you out of it too.